By Reggie Smith
I was a very emotional child and my feelings were easily hurt. Two things I did a lot of back then was cry and lie. I think I would cry because I did not know how to express my feelings. I was afraid to hurt anyone else’s feelings because I knew how it felt. I would lie, I think, because I did not want anyone to know what I was thinking or doing. I think I did not want to be judged. I certainly did not want to be told what to do, so I lied to my parents and people in authority the most of all. Not being able to deal with or even identify my feelings caused me more pain than learning how to live with the feelings. I guess I thought I would not be loved if I told the truth, so I hurt myself instead. Have you always been honest about your feelings?
It is said that “hurt people, hurt people”, and I know that to be true. Disagreements and arguments often manifest between people for many reasons, but a hurt feeling has to be amongst the most popular causes, right? As it turns out, most people don’t know how to disagree without being disagreeable. Anger, harsh actions and words often result from our inability to manage our emotions. As we experience the full range of emotions from love to hate, we sometimes allow our behavior to be dictated by our feelings. As humans, we are blessed to engage life through the energy in motion, but when our minds do not process our emotions in healthy ways, we usually experience unwanted consequences. Crimes of passion or rage are not uncommon, and our prisons are filled with stories about misplaced anger. It is a great virtue to attain emotional maturity in one’s life, isn’t it?
Fear is one of the main things that causes us to create conflict in our lives and in the world. The fear of losing something that we have, or fear of not getting something that we want, can cause us to act in ways that we think will create a sense of emotional retribution. Spite and revenge can cause great pain for all those involved. When we learn to forgive each other and ourselves for our feelings, we begin to grow more capable of understanding and dealing with situations without doing harm to others or ourselves. Conversely, joy and euphoria can be destructive in the extreme if left unchecked. It seems that we are challenged to find emotional balance in our lives, while still allowing ourselves to experience the full range of our feelings.
Often we want what we want, when we want it. Desire is a very powerful motivating force. The desire for love, sex, and being touched are amongst the most powerful desires humans’ experience. We love to be loved and to be in love. The fact is that love, appreciation, and satisfaction do not always come the way and time that we want. Furthermore, life often challenges us with unsustainable joy, unbelievable pain, or unquenchable hopes and dreams. These are the times when we have our greatest opportunities to grow our emotional maturity. Emotions are energy in motion. They are the sparks of life that motivates our actions. Actions have consequences, and that’s a fact. No matter what you feel, let’s remember to always check ourselves before we wreck ourselves (and others).
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